When intelligent people don’t always act with intelligence *ABI 1311
David Gunzburg, DGHR Services www.dghrservices.com.au
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Why do intelligent people so often act in ways which they know are inappropriate or not how they would prefer to act?
We are all familiar with the feeling that sometimes there are two of “us”, one driven to an unthinking and automatic response and another suggesting we stop, think about it and do what we know is the wiser course.
We also know that most of the time (and almost always when we are under pressure) the wiser version of “us” is trampled underfoot. The really frustrating part is that we can often predict with some accuracy when we are going to get it wrong, why it is wrong, what would be our preferred course of action and then we still go ahead and do the wrong thing anyway!
When working with managers and executives in a coaching role it is tempting to think that once they understand the behaviour that is causing difficulty then the problem is nearly solved i.e. surely once they understand what they are doing wrong they will simply correct it. In fact they often already have an intuitive if not complete understanding of what they are doing, they just cannot override their automatic and “natural” responses. Despite the coaching and the improved understanding the issue remains!
As is so often the case the difficulty these problems cause usually intensifies once someone is placed in a leadership role. Things that could be forgiven or do not have an impact beyond one or two people become magnified by the positional authority invested in the leadership role and are no longer able to be tolerated. By this stage in the person’s career many of these poor behaviours have become well established and deeply ingrained automatic responses, and some of them may even have served the person well in previous roles.
Why is it so difficult to countermand the “automatic” us?
You would think that once the required change was clearly understood by someone that it would be relatively easy to override these automatic and unproductive action.
Unfortunately they usually have significant power over us for a number of reasons.
There is usually an enticing short term pay off attached to our automatic responses.
Where a leader is exhibiting poor behaviours, and continues to do so even after they have been pointed out to them, the response should not be to condemn them for a lack of willpower or intent to change.
We need to provide them with the insight and tools to recognise these behaviours before or as they are happening and also equip them with some skills to do something about it.
As it is for strategy, 90% of the task is in the implementation!